“Whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God,” (James 4:4).
The fourth chapter of the Book of James concerns the genuineness of one’s relationship with God. A right relationship with God teaches us how to relate to others differently. We no longer act the way the world taught us to act. Changing a behavior pattern learned over tens of years is difficult, but not insurmountable.
Instead of fighting, we pray (verse 3). God teaches us that it is better to wrestle with Him in prayer than to wrangle with men. God can do more through prayer than we can through fighting.
Instead of lusting and envying after worldly things, we can find contentment where we are in our journey with God. That does not mean that we stop and retreat forever. It just means that we enjoy the scenery as we journey through life. God’s Spirit will not dwell where there is worldly lust (verse 5).
Instead of being conceited and looking out for number one, we need to be more interested in God’s Kingdom and will (verse 8).
Instead of criticizing and tearing people down, we should encourage and build people up (verse 11).
Instead of living our plans, we should live and do God’s will.
Genuine humility is swallowing my preferences to obey God’s will. “Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin” (verse 17).